But in general you never go really far from yourself, you’re still your own company, but it’s an absent presence. You’re there but not really there. A silent companion you are- and your walking partner, that’s also yourself, is yearning to share a bit of his own self, needs, worries, hopes, and all that you may refer to as “thinking”, it’s that other being that is yearning for attention and acceptance …
I see the passing by cars providing light as people you encounter in life, the presence of which is sometimes helpful and gains you insight, while others don’t help you much …
How would be the case had you had a torch in your hand? Would you still need the passing cars to provide you with a source of light? Sure not. The reason I’m bringing up this analogy is to tell you that you provide your own source of light, you trigger it from within, thus creating your own life experience, nurturing needs or building independence.
How Dependant or Sovereign you are is decided by your own perception of life coupled with the way you look up or down on yourself.
We build our needs and nurture them or avail the tools to get over them.
A need is not necessarily a weakness, but a state that requires fulfilment lest it keep you weak. What determines your ability or inability to address a need is who you really are, your true potential, in contrast to who you think you are.
But how can you detect your need, recognise your potential and boundaries? Is it an easy job? By far it’s not. It needs a better relation with thyself, and certainly a better understanding of You.
Where has your bond with yourself gone? When and why have you decided to walk out on yourself and forsake the link with your own.. And traded for what.. for the buzzing realm surrounding ?
None of us is in a position to sever ties with our own selves. It’d cost us dearly and leave us wandering trying to figure out what brought us here and what’s the role meant for each one of us… What are our capabilities and what are our drawbacks and weaknesses?
Some may ask so what’s expected to be the very positive outcome of answering what I came to realise as an intriguing question “What’s the role meant for each one of us in life?”
It entails a lot… fathoming our role in life would also mean exploring our true potential, and accepting our limitations.
But be careful for you need an loving eye of your own to do that, otherwise you will be asserting your weaknesses and doubts, instead of boosting your self esteem and love for your being.
As you think and feel you shall live- and as you expect of yourself you shall prove to be.
So rise up and shine, celebrate your existence and appreciate your being.
Oscar Wilde once put it this way “to love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance..”